Every LDS Ward has one or two single men who are simply amazing; nevertheless, year after year, they remain single. They are usually attractive and confident and they date great women; yet they often report that they don’t feel an emotional attachment to the women they date. Without this attachment they don’t feel confident in moving forward with marriage (read the full article on He’s Amazing and Still Single. Why?).

The women who date these men also have common traits. They are often educated, attractive, confident, and socially skilled women. They are patient, kind, good listeners, and willing to do their part in relationships. They don’t react dramatically or inappropriately. They’re not excessively nagging. They are quick to read books on relationships and apply what they learn. And they don’t have many undesirable issues in their past (read the full article on He’s Amazing and Still Single and What She Can Do About It).

These men, and the women they date, have specific issues and relationship patterns that contribute to why these men feel disengaged, trapped, and confused—and all of these issues can be overcome.

A 10-minute sample

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There are three parts to this audio series.

A description of what is in each audio is provided below.

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Part 1—He’s Amazing and Still Single! Why?

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In Part 1 you will learn

1. The common personality traits associated with this pattern (minute 0:0)
2. What happens after three or four months of dating (and sometimes after just two weeks) (minute 4:40)
3. The common personality traits of the women these men are dating (minute 10:10)
4. The pursue/withdraw pattern starts (minute 11:42)
5. How pressure from friends, family, and church leaders adds to the problem (minute 15:08)
6. When problems start to appear (minute 17:20)
7. How empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility are actually a part of the problem (minute 18:43)
8. How anxiety plays a role in creating apathy and feelings of being frozen and trapped (minute 21:49)
9. These men start doing the bare minimum in the relationship (minute 24:19)
10. Once the pressure is off then they start to miss her (minute 26:02)
11. Why women pursue men and what this pursuing behavior looks like (minutes 26:34)
12. How a man responds to her being a pursuer (minute 29:54)
13. How she responds to his withdrawal (and how this affects him) (minute 30:52)
14. How her kindness and support effects him and makes him feel more passive (minute 33:21)
15. How the anxiety of the unknown adds to the problem (minute 34:36)
16. How getting physically involved adds pressure and adds to the problem (minute 36:20)
17. They need specific techniques to take the pressure off and avoid long define-the-relationship conversations (minute 38:54)
18. Spiritually they are either getting no answer or the answer, “This woman is a great option. It’s your choice.” (minute 40:14)
19. Alisa’s experience with receiving spiritual revelation about who to marry (minute 48:59)
20. These men feel trapped even spiritually (minute 52:43)
21. If there was a simple fix, these men would have fixed it by now (minute 55:22)
22. For those who have bought this audio and it doesn’t describe them, I will give them a credit for a different audio (minute 56:04)

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Part 2—He’s Amazing and Still Single … What “HE” Can Do About It

There are 3 disks in Part 2. On sale—this week ONLY—for $23.85. Regularly priced at $59.85.

1. Disk 1 of 3
2. Disk 2 of 3
3. Disk 3 of 3

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In Disk 1 of Part 2, you will learn:

1. Introduction (minute 0:0)
2. How the pattern begins from first contact or date (minute 1:18)
3. Three issues that contribute to these negative emotions (anxiety, a lot of shoulds, and spiritual silence) (minute 3:06)
4. These men often assume the problem is the girl instead of the “pattern” (minute 3:59)
5. Her response is to do more and more (and what the men would prefer) (minute 7:32)
6. These men don’t realize that the problem is an anxiety response (not her) (minute 12:07)
7. The form of anxiety they are experiencing (minute 14:44)
8. The first thing they need to do (fight the anxiety and thinking errors) (minute 17:04)
9. How the two of them can fight the problem together (minute 18:24)
10. The thinking errors to avoid (and what to redirect your attention to) (minute 18:50)
11. Why communicating their feelings with women is both important and difficult (and how their aversion to conflict contributes) (minute 29:56)
12. Translating these techniques and skills into early dating behavior (minute 43:41)
13. Men love through sacrifice but only when they give it willingly rather than because they feel they “should” or are obligated (minute 45:33)
14. Two options for breaking the pressure and expectations (and how these are tied to their emotions) (minute 47:23)
15. How to help her take the pressure and expectations off (one a first date) (minute 55:42)

In Disk 2 of Part 2, you will learn:

1. Dating A and B List girls differently (minute 0:0)
2. The technique for spelling out what you want and don’t want her to do early in a relationship (minute 2:88)
3. Three things that are necessary for an emotional attachment (minute 7:23)
4. How to avoid the trap of feeling like “there is always another girl who is better than the one I’m with” (minute 14:26)
5. Why you need to avoid planning future events (minute 16:14)
6. How to keep the first few months focused on just having fun while reducing expectations (minute 18:22)
7. How to avoid over-analyzing simple affection (minute 20:03)
8. Techniques for managing expectations relative to affection (minute 24:06)
9. A summary of how to deliver the techniques (minute 40:33)
10. The homework between now and the next CD (minute 42:47)

In Disk 3 of Part 2, you will learn:

1. Even when her initial reaction wasn’t good, it still took the pressure off and they worked it out (minute 0:0)
2. What to be looking for in the first three to four months (minute 6:14)
3. What to do when conflict arises and how to hang in there and stay engaged (minute 6:50)
4. The techniques are having an immediate relief of pressure with both the A and B list dates (minute 7:57)
5. Handling expectations around important events (minute 10:58)
6. When she asks you to an upcoming event, repeat the techniques (minute 13:42)
7. Sacrifice equals love, but only sacrifices that don’t create more pressure (minute 15:20)
8. Keep the expectations to minimum as much as possible (how to do this with A and B List dates) (minute 17:22)
9. Follow the Rules in the dating system for timing and pacing dating (or slow it down a little) (minute 20:01)
10. Why you need to explain that the problem is the pressure (not her) (minute 24:55)
11. How to time and pace dating from first date (and how to give her responsibility for her own thoughts, feelings, and risks) (minute 26:12)
12. How to time and pace dating from week one to week three (minute 30:46)
13. How to time and pace phone calls if she lives farther away (minute 36:46)
14. What to do when more pressure starts to build (37:24)
15. How to fight the “pressure” together (rather than withdrawing and breaking the attachment) (minute 37:52)
16. What emotional attachment means to everyone (minute 42:28)
17. When dating 2 A list women (what not to do and what to say) (minute 43:27)
18. At the sixth week and when to start spending time with her and your friends and family (and what to say when talking with friends and family) (minute 50:06)
19. Why there needs to be emotional sharing (minute 51:33)
20. After six to eight weeks, start relying on her more (minute 51:57)
21. What the focus should be during the third and fourth month (minute 52:28)
22. During the fourth and fifth month, how to know when you are ready to be exclusive (minute 58:13)
23. Before you become exclusive make sure you can do this technique and she responds well (so you have confidence that you can adjust the pressure after being exclusive also) (minute 59:21)
24. After establishing this pattern of fighting the “pressure” together, you will know that you can problem solve any other problem you could face (as long as you stay emotionally engaged) (minute 1:00:52)
25. More questions about affection during the second month (i.e. public affection and holding hands when dating 2 A List women) (minute 1:05:34)

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Part 3—He’s Amazing and Still Single … and What “SHE” Can Do About It

This audio series is for the great women who are stuck in the pursue/withdraw pattern and what they can do about it.

There are 3 disks in Part 3. On sale—this week ONLY—for $23.85. Regularly priced at $59.85.

1. Disk 1 of 3
2. Disk 2 of 3
3. Disk 3 of 3

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In Disk 1 of Part 3, you will learn:

1. Introduction (minute 0:0)
2. The person with the least amount of interest has the greatest amount of control and how these women need to apply this concept to their problems (minute 0:55)
3. These techniques will work with most men (not just the “Amazing and still single” men (and will turn off the manipulators and abusers (minute 6:07)
4. Why it is important to match his efforts but not exceed his efforts (you can’t afford to care more than he does) (minute 6:55)
5. The Pursue/Withdraw Pattern (minute 7:56)
6. Important secrets to the male psychology that all women should know (minute 8:23)
7. The “He’s Amazing and Still Single” pattern (minute 8:52)
8. It’s a 3-part process for these men (minute 12:18)
9. How the pressure creates a loss of emotional attachment (minute 13:26)
10. The 3rd piece of the 3-part process for these men (minute 15:26)
11. These women feel trapped because they can’t fix this for the men (minute 16:36)
12. One way to get the men to start communicating more (minute 17:06)
13. A review of the underlying concepts you need from first date to engagement (minute 18:52)
14. From the first date what to do (and not to do) (minute 20:19)
15. How to know if you are on his A or B (versus the good-for-now list) (minute 25:19)
16. How to know if he is a little slower but he really is interested (and the importance of controlling your anxiety and taking the pressure off for him and you) (minute 27:54)
17. How frequently (and quickly) to answer his calls (minute 28:56)
18. How long to support the relationship when he is still going slow and the importance of changing this pattern early on (minute 29:24)
19. These men often come on really strong in the first few weeks of dating and then they withdraw (minute 30:30)
20. When a man openly starts analyzing you, it’s definitely a red-flag (and how good men will act different) (minute 32:13)
21. Why I’ve created a different audio for the women than the men in the “He’s Amazing and Still Single” pattern (minute 35:25)
22. The importance of being resilient in your efforts to take care of yourself and be happy (minute 36:19)
23. How to keep yourself from getting too into him too soon (minute 36:59)
24. How unchecked anxiety can lead to obsessions and make this process so much worse (and more miserable) (minute 39:34)
25. How to avoid being used or triggering his boredom (minute 41:11)
26. Why it is better to not spend everyday with him too soon (and how to ensure that he’s more worried about how to catch you rather than worried about what to do with you because he’s already got you) (minute 42:36)
27. Why it is so essential that the first 3 or 4 months are fun for these men (minute 46:58)
28. How long-distance dating complicates the attachment (minute 48:51)
29. The importance of expressing faith in these men to calm both of your fears (minute 51:37)
30. How his withdraw can break her emotional attachment to him (minute 52:18)
31. It’s essential that you maintain your confidence and happiness (minute 54:30)
32. How to deal with friends or family who say, “It shouldn’t be this way” (minute 55:43)
33. How to tell if he really is invested in you and the relationship (minute 57:21)
34. If you choose this relationship, you need to focus on being effective (rather than being right) (minute 59:31)
35. The thinking errors that will increase your anxiety, make you miserable, and cause him to feel pressure in the relationship (minute 1:00:42)
36. It’s not fair, and it is what it is (minute 1:09:05)
37. Thinking errors (continued) (minute 1:09:24)
38. What everyone listening to this audio needs to do (1:16:24)

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In Disk 2 of Part 3, you will learn:

1. Introduction (minute 0:0)
2. How to get and keep him in the pursuer role (from the first contact to phone calls) (minute 0:31)
3. How to match his efforts with her warmth and femininity (minute 09:13)
4. How to end the date (minute 11:29)
5. How to handle texts (minute 13:33)
6. How to handle all of the potential pressure moments in a relationship (from first date to the first six weeks) (minute 15:37)
7. How to get men to pursue commitment rather than pushing them toward commitment (minute 27:16)
8. How to handle texts (continued) (minute 34:32)
9. How to recognize when he starts to withdraw (usually around the third to sixth week) and how to respond (minute 35:52)
10. How to declare what you are thinking rather than having define-the-relationship conversations (minute 40:07)
11. How to assume the least expectation or commitment (during the first four months) so he has to pursue more commitment (minute 42:12)
12. What to expect relative to holding hands (and how to handle it) (minute 47:47)
13. How to handle situations when they over think things (minute 50:18)
14. What to expect relative to holding hands (and how to handle it) (continued) (minute 53:31)
15. In time this needs to transition from her declaring the minimum expectation to her talking with him about how they can together: 1) fight the pressure for him and 2) make her feel secure in the relationship (minute 54:58)
16. What to expect relative to kissing (and how to handle) (minute 57:17)
17. What to expect relative to the first four months of dating and when to expect to be exclusive (minute 58:31)
18. This is about reducing the pressure but not taking it away (minute 01:02:33)
19. Continue the audio series on Disk 3 (minute 01:03:50)

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In Disk 3 of Part 3, you will learn:

1. Introduction (minute 0:0)
2. When to start inviting them to family and work events (minute 0:08)
3. How to transition from declaring your thoughts to fighting the pressure together (minute 2:37)
4. How much to analyze what they are saying and how to respond (the importance of communicating faith) (minute 9:50)
5. How and when your needs need to be expressed and met (and the essentials for creating a secure attachment) (minute 11:42)
6. When he says, “I don’t know” (minute 17:05)
7. How to move forward with being exclusive, handling road trips, and then getting engaged (minute 19:13)
8. Transition from declaring to how can we manage the pressure together to solving my problems together (and how much this means to me) (minute 29:20)
9. Faith is the antidote to fear (and how to express your faith) (minute 32:43)
10. When others are saying negative things and when you feel you can’t do this (minute 35:14)

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