“How do I keep from being a rebound?” —Q & A

Q– If a man just got out of a relationship, how do I make it so that I’m not the rebound? I’ve been spending a lot of time with a guy lately, probably too much, too fast. Don’t worry,  I haven’t kissed him yet, :) and I don’t plan to for a while. But you would think after all the times I’ve read your books and been to your seminars I would know to keep busy and keep things just like how you say to avoid that drop-off curve. Ahhhh!!! Can I still go back? We’ve just been spending weekends together hanging out. That’s not good either; we should be going on dates. Do you have any recommendations? I don’t want to mess this one up.

A Well, in cases like this my advice for men and women is the same. You’re at risk of falling into the good-for-now trap. I suggest you only see someone once a week or less until they are ready to date you. Focus on flirting with others and spending more time with them until this happens, otherwise you will get more attached and dependent than would be wise. This is especially important given the obvious statement that this person is not really ready to date.

I hope that helps.

Alisa

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About UtahsDatingCoach

I am a dating coach who has 17 years of past experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist.
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