For those who may be struggling with some social challenges, Tracy Golden shared the following links:
A comprehensive website with an enormous number of related resources from common characteristics of the syndrome to assessment tools to treatment strategies – all specifically related to Asperger’s Syndrome.
This website is geared toward children and young adults, but all of the ideas are relevant to adults with social learning challenges. If you can get past the graphics and child-like “flavor”, you will find a set of powerful ideas and techniques for developing your ability to participate in social and romantic relationships.
This website offers easy to understand, comprehensive information on non-verbal learning disabilities, a category of neurological challenges that are often overlooked or misdiagnosed as an autism spectrum disorder such as Asperger’s Syndrome.
Something else that could be interesting for couples to watch would be the movie Adam (2009) about the young man with Aspergers who falls in love with the woman who moves into his apartment complex. Of course, real life not always so sweet…but, could be useful for some individuals or couples.
The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch
At some point in nearly every marriage, a wife finds herself asking, What the heck is wrong with my husband?! In David Finch’s case, this turns out to be an apt question. Five years after he married Kristen, the love of his life, they learn that he has Asperger syndrome. The diagnosis explains David’s ever-growing list of quirks and compulsions, his lifelong propensity to quack and otherwise melt down in social exchanges, and his clinical-strength inflexibility. But it doesn’t make him any easier to live with.
Determined to change, David sets out to understand Asperger syndrome and learn to be a better husband— no easy task for a guy whose inability to express himself rivals his two-year-old daughter’s, who thinks his responsibility for laundry extends no further than throwing things in (or at) the hamper, and whose autism-spectrum condition makes seeing his wife’s point of view a near impossibility.
Nevertheless, David devotes himself to improving his marriage with an endearing yet hilarious zeal that involves excessive note-taking, performance reviews, and most of all, the Journal of Best Practices: a collection of hundreds of maxims and hard-won epiphanies that result from self-reflection both comic and painful. They include “Don’t change the radio station when she’s singing along,” “Apologies do not count when you shout them,” and “Be her friend, first and always.” Guided by the Journal of Best Practices, David transforms himself over the course of two years from the world’s most trying husband to the husband who tries the hardest, the husband he’d always meant to be.
22 Things a Woman With Asperger’s Syndrome Wants Her Partner to Know by Rudy Simone
Rudy Simone covers 22 common areas of confusion for someone dating a female with AS and includes advice from her own experience and from other partners in real relationships. She talks with humour and honesty about the quirks and sensitivities that you may come across when getting to know your partner. All the pivotal relationship landmarks are discussed, including the first date, sex, and even having children. This entertaining and easy-to-read book will be ideal for anyone dating, or in a relationship with, an AS female.
NLD From the Inside Out: Talking to Parents, Teachers, and Teens about Growing Up with Nonverbal Learning Disabilities by Michael Brian Murphy (Author) and Gail R. Shapiro (Contributor)
Written by and for young adults with NLD – and their parents, teachers, and therapists – NLD FROM THE INSIDE OUT presents useful tips, strategies, and insights into living with this oft-misunderstood learning disability – in the voices of those who experience it.
PLEASE NOTE, these resources have not been reviewed by Alisa Goodwin Snell. It is not known if these resources contain content that may be offensive to some people with conservative values.
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