Q—You came to our YSA conference in Portland, Oregon, recently. I enjoyed your workshop. I also did your 5-4-3-2-1 challenge (which included specific dating goals to try that night), but I had a problem. I ended up asking 5 girls for their number and didn’t get any rejections. Where do I go from here? I really want to practice the rejection plan you talked about.
A—To get more experience practicing the rejection plan, continue to pursue the women you want to date and look for any opportunities in which you might face criticism or rejection from family, friends, at work, or from others. When these opportunities come, keep your chin forward, square your shoulders, look them in the eye, and give a confident response. Graciously accept any feedback or comments they make and then confidently walk away while repeating to yourself, It’s not me. It’s my technique. What they think of me does not define my value. This way you will be practicing the rejection plan.
Review this article, “Does she like me? How do I know,”as a refresher of the rejection plan, so you will be prepared when another opportunity to pursue a woman presents itself. The good news is, eventually one of these women will need to reject you, and then you will be able to apply the technique and master it. If you have been practicing handling rejection well in other scenarios, you will be prepared when this happens. In the mean time, just enjoy dating all those women who aren’t rejecting you.
I hope this answers your question. Good luck,