Q—You give a lot of advice about dating in the first six weeks, but I can’t seem to get a second date even when the first date goes well.  For example, I met a guy at a party about a month ago. He got my number from a mutual friend, and we went out a couple of weeks ago and things went well.  He even sent me a follow-up text saying how much he enjoyed it. I suggested we do it again soon and he replied for sure. But two weeks later and not a word. I know that two weeks isn’t a long time, but I have a feeling I won’t be hearing from him. This seems to be a pattern for me. I tell myself that things will work out with the right guy, and I have been dating and flirting with other guys, but I still feel like I’m doing something wrong. I’m afraid to even hope for a second date since my experience has proven otherwise, and I worry that my negative feelings and doubts are somehow sensed by guys even without my seeing or talking to them. What do I do? How do I get to a second date? Should I
forget about Mr. Two Weeks Ago?

A—There’s a lot you can do to encourage dates, and my first book, Dating Game Secrets for Marrying a Good Man, and my upcoming book, Still Single? It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique, would definitely help.

However, whether you are a man or a woman, I often suggest in these situations that the individual get some frank feedback from others about what they might be doing to turn others off. If you don’t trust the feedback of others, I suggest you give me a call and we schedule an appointment.

A little direction might go a long way in helping you get and keep attention.

Good luck,

Alisa

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  1. You are not alone! I feel like the one date wonder!! I also think that it’s kind of difficult sometimes to get honest advice from people. Our friends understandable don’t want to hurt our feelings so I think it’s difficult to ask. Maybe I need to try a little harder though! I really want to ask the guy I like because we are super good friends but I want to still be friends with him…for some reason! I’m worried about what he might say.

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  2. Heck, I’m a reasonably good looking and truly decent man and I can’t even get a date! Where are all you ladies hiding?!?!? Seems the ones who are available are either really young, or older! Shouldn’t be so tough to find ones in their early to mid-30s (near my age!)

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