Q—Thank you so much, Alisa. Unfortunately I have felt distant from God for years regarding this subject. I am keeping the commandments and everything, but I fear that I won’t have a chance to marry someone within my religion. I also get asked out much more by men who aren’t of my faith. Until recently I would never have gone out with them, but now I am considering it. I am a convert to the church, and my family are non-members, so I “identify” with the other cultures and religions very much. It isn’t what I ideally want, but it is easier for me to meet great guys who are interested in me who just happen to not share my religion. They seem to be less affected by my age and/or status in life. Do you have any thoughts about this subject?
Thanks again so much for your help! I want more than anything to be a wife and a mother—it is all I have ever wanted or felt I was supposed to do. I’m just trying everything I can to make this dream come true. 🙂
A—My advice would be to re-evaluate your top-ten list. If having a partner who shares the same religion is on the top five, then the answer I would give is that you need to build your faith, flirt, and play your role with those who share your religious views, trusting that as you make a good-faith effort, God will match that effort. If you give in to your fears, you will only experience them over and over again. It really is a choice between faith and fear, but I have faith that you can have the qualities you’re looking for on your top five if you do your part.
You alone can decide what matters most to you, but once you decide, keep the faith. Read chapter 4 again to help you with this process.
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