So after asserting my needs to the previously mentioned guy and telling him that my feelings were hurt for reasons X, Y, and Z, said guy apologized profusely and said he was totally unaware of how I felt. This lead to an unexpected conversation about his feelings for me and how he wanted to date me but had concluded I didn’t want to be anything more than friends. This taught me a valuable lesson—I need to assert my needs and feelings more often.
So I am now in the beginning stages of a relationship. This doesn’t happen to me very often. Despite having gone on a lot of dates, emotional investing is a whole new world for me. I don’t know where this is going to go, but I’m excited to find out. The main lesson I learned this week: “When I stand up for myself, life supports me in unexpected, loving ways.”
Now, how about you? When was the last time you asserted your needs? Was it a positive or negative experience? I always feared being too needy and thus became an emotional doormat, but I’m learning that doesn’t work so well. I’m liking this standing-up-for-myself principle. Thoughts? I’d love to hear them.
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