I first wanted to say thank you to Alisa for making this a faith-based program. I have been thinking about that idea and have found it so wise and insightful. This is not just a program of learning the right skills and techniques, it is a lifestyle change—a lifestyle change for the better.
I hate admitting it, but it is my attitude about dating that needs to change more than anything.
I often feel hopeless when it comes to dating. I don’t ever doubt that there are good men out there; I just feel like there aren’t enough of them. Alisa once mentioned that she started praying to see the goodness in men. I thought this was a grand idea, but I also need to pray for the ability to praise that goodness in them. I need to bring out their masculinity through my femininity.
That means I am going to need to learn how to flirt, doesn’t it?
Ok, time to set some goals. Hmmm. I’ve got to figure out what I should do. I like Alisa’s rule about donating $20 bucks to a charity if I don’t meet my goals. So here it is—three goals:
- I will pray each morning to recognize when I am in the presence of single men and for the courage to look them in the eyes and smile (with either a gentle finger wave, a tilt to my head, or any other feminine gesture)
- I will stop three times a day (whether at the store, while driving, or when on a walk) to look around to see if there are any single men around me.
- I will take notes of how it worked out (how and where I noticed single men, if they responded when I smiled, what feminine behaviors I was able to include, what felt natural and worked well and what didn’t) and report back on next week’s blog.
I will do this at least five days this week or I will pay $20 to a charity.
Whew. There it is. I’m committed. But I can’t do this alone! Will you pick three goals and do it with me? Write your three goals down, and I’ll report next week. I’ll expect you to report also!! 😉
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