I’m still wondering how in the world I got myself into this situation. One day I’m talking to a friend about a dating coach she has heard of, and a couple months later I am writing about my experiences using the advice of that dating coach. I, like many of you may be, was skeptical. Do I really need a dating coach? And even if I have one, will it really make a difference? Well, I have realized that this program is about a lot more than just dating, and I can already see a difference in the short time I have been committed to it.
The first thing about this program that really hit me was the importance of separating the person from the technique. It is so easy to feel rejected and worthless when that guy doesn’t talk to you at the party or doesn’t call when he says he will. It is so easy to assume that there must be something wrong with you and that you need to be better in some way. But we all need to remember, “It’s not you—it’s your technique.” This may sound like just another line, but it is so much more. It’s about being confident; it’s about facing your fears and knowing that you are a great person even when someone else may not see that. One of my goals this week is to write down all of my fears and then write out a list of things that I’m going to choose to have faith in. The things I choose to have faith in will hopefully answer my fears.
I am hoping that this program will give me opportunities to learn and grow through different experiences, some of which may be awkward and/or comical (I’ll be sure to share those). That’s just how dating is. And this is why I have decided I am going to take all the help I can get.
Wish me luck,
Note from Alisa Goodwin Snell
I would encourage both men and women to take the challenge Abigail is taking. To do this, write about your fears as well and add them as comments to this page. I will comment on your fears and give you suggestions for overcoming them.
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