This week has been great. I headed into it with a positive outlook and more faith than I’ve had in the past due to my fears and faith lists. There was nothing earth shattering that happened, but there were little things that made a difference in my week.
There was one instance this week where I ran into a guy who‘s a potential interest, and he was nice but not acting interested in any way. Rather than letting myself feel dismissed and unloved, I turned to the truths. I reminded myself that he might not be the one and that just because he wasn’t interested, it doesn’t mean that no one ever will be.
I also had many opportunities for “being a girl.” Just this evening I was invited out for drinks, and the young man sort of just took my bag. Rather than insist that I could carry it myself, I let him help me out. And it felt great (the bag was really heavy!). I’m not certain that it made a difference to him, but I felt more loved and appreciated. I’ve also made a real effort to allow men to hold doors, carry heavy objects, and help me with anything else. Not only that, but I’ve made sure that when they do help me, they walk away FEELING appreciated. There really is A LOT to be said for having a “gratitude attitude.” I keep going back to something Alisa either said or wrote, which is to always leave others feeling great, no matter who or where—girls or guys, friend or foe, it doesn’t matter. We should be more concerned with how that person is feeling than anything else when we are with them.
And lastly, I keep reminding myself that it doesn’t have to be now. I am not on a deadline or running a race. I need to enjoy today, and that’s what I’m trying to do.
My goal for next week is to finish my top-ten list. Lili and I already started, and it has been a lot harder and soul searching than I thought it would be.
What about you? Did the truths help? Are you working on your top-ten list?
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